A Cowboy's Life: Keeping Your Marriage Alive with a Toddler

Keeping Your Marriage Alive with a Toddler

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marriage changes with kids

Once you become a parent you tend to focus less on your spouse and more on your children. No longer do you have privacy, spontaneous date nights or even much time for deep conversation. It takes a bit more effort to make sure we are meeting the needs of each other and not neglecting them.

My husband and I strive to have a strong marriage, one that our son can look at and see that we genuinely love and care for one another. Of course we aren't perfect, but we know that we are in this together and learn as we go.

Here are a few things that help us keep our marriage alive in this time with a crazy toddler:

Dinner Time - We eat dinner at the table every single night. The television is off and we do not answer the phone. It's a chance for us all to talk about our day or what is on our mind and just unwind without any distractions.

Love Notes - Leave each other post it notes with a sweet little comment. It's nice to wake up in the morning to find a love note or an inside joke to get your day started.

Kiss & Hug - Not just a quick goodbye kiss, but a sweet hug and kiss just because.Those random kisses in the kitchen while cooking dinner still gives me butterfly's.

Date each other - Sure it can be hard to get away from the kids, but it's definitely needed to recharge your batteries. Go for a walk or dinner together and not talk about the kids! We often sit out on our patio after Carson goes to bed and just hold hands and enjoy being just the two of us.

Gifts - Picking up a little gift for each other just so they know you think about them. It can be flowers, a candy bar, a magazine, etc. It doesn't have to be expensive, but a thoughtful gift goes a long way.

What do you to keep your marriage going?

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  1. Great ideas and all so important! I just read an article about a study that was done to see why couples break up or stay together and the number one reason for staying together was kindness. Makes me realize that even the smallest gestures have a huge impact over time. Stopping by from Hump Day Happenings :)

  2. Great suggestions!! We have dinner at the table nightly too and spend quality time together after Mason goes to bed. And text through out the day.

  3. Great advice!! Its so hard after you have a little one!

  4. My husband and I do love notes also :) IT's a nice reminder!

  5. Wow I love this!! I'm in a serious relationship and about to be engaged so stuff like this I love to store in my mind. Thanks for sharing! You have such a cute toddler! :)


  6. These are awesome tips! We do most of these as well. We haven't "dated", but we spend time together when we can if Baby Boy naps for a bit. We always talk to each other about things and the kisses, oh the kisses! ;)

    Stopping by from Thoughtful Thursdays linkup!

  7. Love the "gifts" part ;) These are some great ideas girl :) Love having you with us!

  8. Great suggestions. I always right love notes for my husband when he is gone on trips or when the little and I go away. I need to do them more often, just because!

  9. I can only say but for the grace of God that our marriage has turned around. All the things that would have broken a marriage (outside of an extramarital affair) has brought us together. Since our baby was born it was like the Spirit washed over us and we quit being petty and insecure with each other. We've been able to minimize our arguments and be able to work through them to build the strength of our marriage. Ultimately, I just choose to dwell on the good. Thank you for the reminders. We must stay teachable. =) Continued blessings to you~

  10. This is great advice! My husband and I don't have a toddler, but he works a lot. We make sure and touch each other all the time. It reinforces our connection and let's others know we love each other.

    Thanks for sharing on Hump Day Happenings!

  11. Eating dinner together is huge! We always sit down at the table together, and have no distractions like TV or phones!

  12. Great advice! Hubs and I are almost at our 20 year anni :) We do a lot of what you're suggesting, but always making sure to have some time each day, even if it is 10 minutes. We always have mornin kissins, before either one of us leaves and gets home kissins and the before bed kissins. In other words...we kiss a lot ;))

    Thanks for sharing your tips :)

  13. Your words couldn't be any truer! I think too we should get in the habit of love notes again. It always made my day to see a note on the counter from my hubby!
    Thanks for sharing on Worthwhile Wednesdays!
    ~Allie http://thecraftiestallie.blogspot.com/

  14. Great ideas! We plan at-home theme date nights as well to keep the spark alive. Our kids are 20 months apart and our daughter has ASD so there is never a dull moment around here! I found you through The Life of Faith link-up and am a new follower. I would love to have you link-up to the new Saturday Soiree Blog Party every week at http://faithalongtheway.com Hope to see you there!

  15. Okay, we used to do love notes all the time! I've got to bring those back!!
    Looooove your posts, these are some good ideas!!


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