A Cowboy's Life: When Are You Going to Have Another Baby?

When Are You Going to Have Another Baby?

8:00:00 AM

choosing to have another baby

I get asked this question every week. Carson is almost 3, don't you think it's time to give him a little sister? Um, no thank you. I never know how to really answer this. Do I just give them the ole' one little boy is enough, or do I tell them we had this situation "fixed" just weeks after our son was born. But then that just opens an entire new conversation and lectures.

We usually just simply tell people that 1 child completes our family, kids are expensive, we love being the 3 amigos and that we don't want to be old parents. Of course these reasons are true, but it's much more than that.

No, not just some baby we can name Carson after he is born. I mean, we prayed for this exact child. For 7 years to be exact. We asked that if it was the Lord's will to give us a funny, chubby, dark headed, smart, lovingly little boy that we can raise into a wonderful man. One that will love Mexican food and reading as much as his mommy, one that will grow up to become best buds with his daddy. A boy that we can love, nurture and teach how to handle life - because well, those babies actually turn into real people!

It wasn't the idea of having a little boy for us - it was wanting to have Carson.

What about you, how did you decide on choosing to have (or not) baby #2? Was it a big thought out plan, or did it happen?

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16 comments

  1. The questions people ask never cease to amaze me! My son is nearing 18 months and the baby #2 questions are starting to come up now.

    I really enjoyed reading your post and, yes, it's crazy that this babies we're raising are real people that will grow up into men and women! It's so hard to imagine right now as I'm sitting next to my drooling toddler watching nursery rhymes on YouTube :)

    Personally, my husband and I would love to have many kids (3 to 5?), but really we want whatever God's will is for our family. We have been praying for Baby #2 for the last 10 months with no pregnancy success so far and the questions about "when we're having baby #2" used to really hurt me. God has been healing my heart this time and I feel much more peace - I still have a strong desire for having more children but I surrender it to Him and His timing.

    I look forward to linking up with One Year and Beyond this week because this topic is so close to my heart. Thank you for sharing your story!

    Amy @ http://livinglifetruth.blogspot.com/

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  2. It's a decision you don't really have to explain to anyone. We only have one. One perfect child...well, she's 20 now, but you know. It's a different decision for everyone. We both loved kids, but when it came to having our own...it was a lot more work than we imagined. And you're right, expensive. And a month after our daughter was born, the army sent my husband to Korea for a year. It was tough. We decided our one perfect child was good enough for us. And that's all there is to it. Enjoy your boy...the three amigos will have tons of fun!!!

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  3. My MIL is pressuring for a 3rd. We have to boys, plus a god child living with us. NOPE. Our 2 were plenty on their own, a 3rd is lovely, but 4? NO WAY!

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  4. I love your post. We have one perfect little boy also and we are done! Not sure why it bothers people so much when honestly they will never understand the personal situation that you, your family, and God has. Congrats on your sweet little boy and congrats on being strong enough to realize that one is enough!! :)

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  5. I don't think most people realize how personal that question can be. I know I have been guilty of asking it, and now I feel so bad about it. We have one child and we want more, and I've been able to get pregnant, but haven't been able to stay pregnant. It has been heartbreaking, especially when I'm asked if we "want" more. Yes, we do want more, but we're not getting what we want.

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  6. We will most likely be a one and done family. I would love to have a 2nd, but the hubs is not on board. Our daughter was a rough baby and we both realized that we are not infant people. She is 4 now and we are getting to a place where things are not only easier but more fun then work. She is very social and we have people tell us all the time she is "made to have a sibling." It's like people can't just accept the fact that some couples are happy with just one child.

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  7. I don't think you have to explain your decision to anyone you don't want to! I don't know why people have to be so curious about this subject, or is it just a way to make conversation? Either way, only you and your hubs know what is best for your family and you shouldn't feel pressured to explain that to anyone else!

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  8. It always amazes me how bold people are with their questions! My son just turned one, so people are starting to ask. We want more kids, but I want some time to enjoy just my son.

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  9. What a neat post. :)

    Thanks for joining the Link Up this week!

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  10. My son is 4 now and will be 4-1/2 this December and people are now asking about baby no.2 since I can remember. Sadly my relationship with my husband in on the rocks so no. I dont think there will even be baby no. 2 for us. #ww

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  11. How many children you have and when you choose to have them (or not) is such a personal decision. Why not just focus on the family and fun and each person as an individual - why do we always need to add one more!

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  12. Baby number 2 wasn't exactly planned, I was on the fence about having a second. But I get asked when I will have more and I laugh and say stop drinking ;)

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  13. Up until recently I always wanted three kids. They are both teenagers heading into their twenties and I guess it's time to think of grand kids instead! We are the three amigos and I couldn't imagine my life any differently then with the two amazing kids I have! Koodos to Carson!

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  14. As a mom of 6 wonderful blessings, I never decided I was done until after the last one. I knew there was no way I could do it again and even though there is a 14 year gap between the oldest 4 and the youngest two, I just knew my family was complete. Oh and my youngest son is also Carson!

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  15. question like this really upset me. is like women are baby machine pop one out then pop the next and next. NO! we are women who will have children when and how many the please to have.

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  16. I have 3 and no one is asking me to have more (ha!). We all know I'm done.

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