7 Things Not to Say to a Widow6:00:00 AM
- I know how you feel - Really? Your spouse is standing right next to you. Whether you are trying to make a connection because you lost a parent, sibling, pet (don’t even get me started on that one) or divorce, it’s just not the same. I’m not trying to take away from the grief of your loved one, but it is simply different.
- He’s in a better place - Absolutely! My husband is walking the streets of gold and finally has all his questions answered. But right now. In this moment, my son and I have just had our world shattered. This is something you to say about your 99 year old grandpa, not a 30-something who lost a spouse.
- Everything happens for a reason - Ok, that’s fantastic. How is this statement in any way supposed to make me feel better or make sense of the situation?
- Find your new normal - I get what you are trying to say, but it is extremely annoying. Life will never be normal again. Yes we will find a new different, but life for our family will never be normal again. It is forever changed.
- God doesn’t give you what you can’t handle - Find that in the Bible for me? Because I can tell you straight up, some days I CAN’T handle this.
- How does it feel to be a single mom - What?! I am not single. I didn’t divorce my husband and this certainly wasn’t my plan or have any choice in the matter. It would be more like alone parenting - we don’t get Wednesdays and every other weekend off. We do not have the other parent for financial support, words of encouragement or any kind of help for that matter.
- I can help with anything you need - If you truly mean this statement go ahead and offer it. But those that say it because they don’t know what else to say - STOP. It’s hard enough to ask for help and it can be defeating to get up the courage to only find that the answer is no.